Hi, I’m Tiss.
A psych nerd with a sharp eye for emotional nuance and a knack for spotting patterns most people miss.
I study the psychology behind unhealthy relationships — why we stay, why we rationalize harm, and why leaving can feel so difficult even when something clearly isn’t right.
I’m especially interested in the psychological patterns that make unhealthy relationships difficult to recognize. Many of them don’t look dramatic or obviously toxic. They look normal. Stable. Even loving.
But underneath the surface, the dynamics can still leave people confused, stuck, or slowly losing themselves.
Most people don’t need more advice, they need clearer explanations. That’s the work I do.
Avoiding the truth causes far more damage than the truth itself ever could.
My Core Values
Irreverent Compassion
Holding people accountable doesn’t require shame, blame, or humiliation. Those usually make honesty less likely.
Compassion means asking questions instead of demanding answers. It does not ignore the issue. In fact, it shifts the focus toward addressing the problem instead of attacking the person.
Radical Accountability
Radical accountability means being fully honest about the impact of your behavior, even when it's uncomfortable. Shame makes people hide, defend, or minimize. But taking ownership without self-judgment builds agency and reduces shame.
Accountability works best when it’s paired with self-compassion, not self-punishment.
Clarity over Emotions
Feelings matter and are always valid, but they don’t always tell the truth. Love can feel like danger. Safety might feel uncomfortable. Sadness may come out as anger.
Understanding the psychology behind those reactions helps us see what our feelings are actually telling us.
*Compassion ≠ excusing abusive or harmful behavior. You can love someone and still leave if they are hurting you.
