The Basics

The psychological foundations that shape how we think, feel, and relate to ourselves and others

Core Systems and Mechanisms

How your brain and body keep you safe, alert, and reactive—whether you’re aware of it or not.

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The Nervous System

When it comes to relationship behavior, our nervous system is largely in charge, but it’s not always honest. Learn how it manages stress, threats, and safety, and why it does what it does—especially when its decisions seem to be doing us more harm than good.

Predictive Processing

Your brain isn’t reacting to the world—it’s predicting it. Explore how expectations we didn’t even know we had can shape our perception, emotions, and experiences.

Behavioral Conditioning

Find out how we’re trained, consciously or not, to act, react, and resist change. Then see how we can unlearn or reshape undesirable behavior.

Relational and Developmental Roots

How your earliest relationships shaped your inner world, your emotional needs, and who you believe you are.

Attachment Styles

Understand the 4 primary attachment styles and how they form. Find out how they silently shape your relationships and emotional responses in ways that often hurt you and the people you love.

Self-Concept and Identity

Who you believe you are matters. Dive into the formation of self-concept and how it shapes your decisions, relationships, and behavior.

Shame

Guilt says “I did a bad thing.” Shame says “I am a bad person.” Explore how shame shapes so much of how you view yourself, and how that shame based voew can have serious repercussions.

Internal Patterns and Coping

Mental shortcuts and protecting strategies that shape how we think, cope, and get ourselves stuck.

Defense Mechanisms

Generally developed in childhood, defense mechanisms tend to adapt poorly into adult relationships and often do the opposite of what they are meant to do. Learn how they work and why they can actually be quite harmful.

Cognitive Distortions

Explore the faulty thinking patterns that fuel anxiety, self-doubt, and conflict, and how to catch them in real time. (Think of these as the lies our nervous system tells us to keep us ‘safe’.)