Do you often walk on eggshells or let things go out of fear of overreacting or being too needy?
Are you generally happy, but sometimes wonder if something is missing?
Do you ever feel like something is wrong, but you don’t know what—or how to fix it?
UNRAVEL can help you figure out what’s going on, why, and what you can do about it.
All of them are harmful.
Some unhealthy relationships are abusive. Many are not.
Here’s what most people don’t realize:
Recognizing harmful dynamics in a relationship requires more than just learning a list of ‘red flags’.
Knowing about manipulation and what it looks like is helpful, but it’s not enough.
Because manipulation is not seen.
It’s felt.
To recognize unhealthy or harmful behavior, you have to know what it feels like, and how to interpret those feelings in the context of your past experiences.
This means getting to know your nervous system, your thinking traps, and your internal vulnerabilities.
So how does this work?
This is a stupidly complicated topic. It's counterintuitive, often contradictory, and brings up a lot of conflicting emotions.
Just figuring out where to start can feel discouraging.
To simplify things, I’ve created 4 journeys through UNRAVEL, shown below. Each offers relevant insights, language, and tools to help you make sense of your story and navigate this complex topic.
I also invited my friends Bob & Sally to come along. They’re completely fictional, but their struggles are real. You’ll see them throughout the site, bringing relatable examples and emotional clarity to the material. They’re not experts; they’re just doing their best, much like the rest of us.
To get started, choose the journey below that feels most relevant to you.
*This is not therapy or a substitute for it. The information here is for educational purposes only. Every situation is unique, and not everything may apply to you. Still, many patterns are widely shared—and learning about them can be a powerful first step.
UNRAVEL Journeys
Journey 3: I want to understand my own patterns
Journey 4: I’m supporting someone else
Trauma isn’t neat and tidy. Healing isn’t linear or clean. The journey can be long, difficult & probably painful at times, but I promise you, it will be worth it.
If your relationship is actively harming you, use these tools to gain validation and clarity, but consider reaching out to someone you trust or a professional.
This information is valuable, but it doesn't replace hands-on support when you need it.
