Is My Relationship Emotionally Abusive?
Emotional abuse rarely looks the way most people expect. It tends to be subtle, gradual, and easy to rationalize or dismiss, especially when you love the person. These questions aren't a diagnosis. They're a way to slow down and look honestly at what's actually happening.
Do I regularly doubt myself?
Does it feel like everything is always my fault?
Do I have to be the one to always apologize, compromise, or change?
Do I tone down my feelings or bite my tongue because I don't want to overreact, seem needy, or start a fight?
Do they call me names or put me down?
Do I feel like I'm always walking on eggshells to protect their feelings or keep the peace?
When I’m hurt, do they usually try to understand where I’m coming from or do they become defensive, dismissive, or make it about themselves?
Do I feel relieved when they're in a good mood?
Do they take accountability for having hurt me, even if it was accidental or unintentional?
Can they admit fault when they're wrong?
Am I often confused and dissecting their behavior, trying to make sense of things?
Do I genuinely believe this relationship is healthy and stable?