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Relationships don't follow traditional logic, so when we try to understand some event or dynamic, what seems to make the most sense is often the least accurate. We tend to focus on the wrong things, ask the wrong questions, and draw the wrong conclusions.
Then we use those conclusions to make significant life decisions or advise our friends. We have access to more information than ever before, yet data shows that relationship satisfaction is down and unhealthy or harmful dynamics are on the rise.
UNRAVEL is here to change that. It explains what's actually happening by breaking down the psychology and neurobiology into simple language so you can unravel the confusion and finally make it all make sense.
Here are the things you’ll find here. I recommend starting with Real Answers or Journeys.
Get answers to the questions you keep coming back to. Am I the problem? Why is everything my fault? Can they change? Find out what’s happening, how it works, and why it’s messing with your head.
Guided paths that take you through the full cycle of various relationships and patterns. See how things develop, why they play out the way they do, and how to understand your own role. There’s even a journey for how to support a friend.
The research and science behind relationships. From the nervous system to social scripts to emotional manipulation, these can be read as standalone pieces or to provide context for everything else on the site.
Original models developed for UNRAVEL. These are built to help you see relationship patterns more clearly and understand the mechanisms at play. They make the science more relatable.
How much do you actually know about emotional manipulation? Take the quiz, see your score, and get the answer sheet with every answer fully explained.
Checklists, scripts, dating logs, and other practical tools you can use to apply what you're learning on UNRAVEL to your own relationships.
