Is Something Missing in My Relationship?
Not every difficult relationship is abusive. Sometimes something is just off -- and you can feel it even when you can't name it. These questions are designed to help you get more honest with yourself about what's actually there, what isn't, and whether you're okay with that.
Am I already experiencing the love I want or am I waiting on the love to show up?
Am I counting on some future milestone (moving in, getting married, relocating, changing jobs, etc.) for things to get better?
Do I find myself regularly explaining away the same doubts or having to convince myself this is the right relationship or that I’m doing the right thing?
Do I avoid asking too many questions or accept flimsy answers because I’m afraid of the real answer?
Am I being completely honest with myself or are there things I’m trying not to acknowledge or think about?
If my relationship is the same in 5 years as it is now, will I be happy?
Am I afraid of looking too closely at some issue because of what it might mean?
Am I walking towards the person I love or running away from something that scares me?
Do I feel like my partner is hiding something or holding something back? Am I hiding something or holding something back?
If your partner felt the way you feel or was making choices for the reasons you’re choosing things, would you want that?
Do I feel like I have to do something, give something, try harder, etc. to get the love and happiness I want? (Am I trying to earn love?)
Am I making an honest and authentic choice about what I truly want? Or am I afraid of what will happen/what it says about me if I leave?
Am I afraid that leaving would make me a bad person or a failure?